03/16

I'm sorry, baby #2.

My first pregnancy was unexpected but full of excitement; I elatedly counted down every week that passed and religiously checked my baby app each morning. I read up on meal ideas and researched vitamins I could take to ensure a healthy pregnancy. I didn't worry about labour, I only felt awe that it would be the day I'd meet my beautiful child; bar a couple of minor bumps in the road, pregnancy was amazing.

Fast forward a few years, and BAM! baby #2 burst onto the scene, and needless to say, things this time round have been a little different! So here are just a few things that I apologise for, baby #2.

I'm sorry baby #2, that I class eating healthily as adding a handful of salad to any meal.

I'm sorry baby #2, that I haven't read any books on how to parent (though I have to admit, they didn't help me the first time)!

I'm sorry baby #2, but.. whoops, am I in the second trimester already?

I'm sorry baby #2, that your brother already sits on your head on a daily basis.

I'm sorry baby #2, that I have no idea whether you're the size of an aubergine or an avocado this week.

I'm sorry baby #2, that your space in our home is currently confined to a tiny corner in your brother's wardrobe.

I'm sorry baby #2, but.. how was I showing so soon!? Please tell me you're not a giant.

I'm sorry baby #2, that my only plan for your birth is to try not to yell 'get me the f**king drugs' at the top of my lungs (again).

I'm sorry baby #2, that you'll probably be called baby #2 for a while after your born..

And I'm really sorry, baby #2. I'm sorry that you'll be the second child, but don't worry, you'll be just as well loved as the first.

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Amanda Bailey says..
8 years ago

Can't wait to meet baby no 2 x
Fi @ Beauty Baby and Me says..
8 years ago

Brilliant post! Loved it! Baby #2 won't mind at all for all these things I'm sure :-) xx #justanotherlinky
Mackenzie @ Reflections From Me says..
8 years ago

Baby #2 will be loved and you will have no need to say sorry. My baby #2 is now middle child, but is totally loved and adored even if she is caught in between her crazy big sister and her cheeky annoying little brother. We love each and every one. I love that baby 1 is sitting on baby 2's head daily so funny #justanotherlinky
Sophie @ Sophie and Lily says..
8 years ago

So relatable, brilliant post! Who needs parenting books anyway haha :) Popping over from Sunday Stars
Crummy Mummy says..
8 years ago

All of this is inevitable - I wouldn't worry about it too much. They survive in spite of us! #sundaystars
Something Crunchy Mummy says..
8 years ago

This is so rebatable as I felt like this when I was pregnant with Noah. #sundaystars xx
Helen @ Gumdrops and the Bear says..
8 years ago

Ha, brilliant. When #2 gets here it'll be #1 you're saying sorry to! Sorry I forgot to give you lunch (woops), sorry I left you sitting in a nappy full of poo for 3 hours, sorry I don't have the energy to give you more than a 5 page bedtime story - I still love you! You'll be great and #2 will know no different! x #sundaystars
Sarah Howe says..
8 years ago

tehe love this! You look diddy so don't worry about the showing :-) I reckon second time around with a little one running around, taking every minute of the day it is sooo different. And getting bounced on is part of the job. I'm sure baby no 2 will loved sooo much and get that extra love from A xx #sundaystars
lizzie @ First Tooth says..
8 years ago

This is so lovely and relatable. I cried regularly after my second was born because I felt guilty for everything. We just don't have time to obsess over a second child especially when our first is a toddler. I didn't have a baby app or take bump pics and I just feel awful and incredibly regretful for not focusing enough on her. But my mind was on my then baby who needed me much more. As long as they feel your love that's all they need xx
Mrs H @ Mrs H's Favourite Things says..
8 years ago

I love this. I feel like I could have written this myself. I have complete mummy guilt about Little Mister H already. Heaven knows what I will be like by the time July arrives?! Probably gibbering mess, who believes she has cursed both her children to a life of abject misery. Ha ha! But least I know that I am not the only pregnant lady who feels this way. Hugs Lucy xxxx
Silly Mummy @ R is for Hoppit says..
8 years ago

This is all so true - you don't focus so much on the second pregnancy, as you have other things to do. But baby 2 has an extra person to love them, & I don't think they do so badly, really. Mine is a little firecracker & we love her! #justanotherlinky
Fran @ Back With A Bump says..
8 years ago

You have nothing to say sorry for! First pregnancies are very different. We obsess over everything and read tonnes of books on what we should and shouldn't do and still have the luxury of free time to do all that. The main thing is to keep happy and take care of yourself.
Kerry @ Blissful Domestication says..
8 years ago

Great post, I had all this guilt too with my 2nd. When people asked me how many weeks I used to have to work it out yet I knew instantly with my first! Thanks for hosting! #MarvMondays
naomi @ Abandon the House says..
8 years ago

Oh so true but baby #2 will be loved and experience their early years in so many other ways than the first baby! Or thats what I'm telling myself!
Island Living 365 says..
8 years ago

I loved this. It is so true! Although you have nothing to be sorry for as baby 2 knows that you love him/her :- ) #marvmondays
Emma @ MS Calling says..
8 years ago

Can't wait to read the post which is about all the extra blessings baby #2 gets because they have an older sibling and a mum who doesn't stress about every stage like we all do work #1.
Jules @ Pondering Parenthood says..
8 years ago

Lovely post! I'm on my first pregnancy and can only imagine how different it must be when you have a toddler to look after too #MarvMondays x
Abi @ Something About Baby says..
8 years ago

I'm only on baby #1, but I did all the things you did, so I have no doubt I'd be exactly the same with baby #2! You don't need to read the books again, surely you're a pro at this parenting game already ?! Great post #marvmondays
Jemma says..
8 years ago

My mum always said she often forgot she was pregnant the second time round, I can imagine it is very different to the first pregnancy. You bump is so cute! Looking forward to following your #2 journey. #MarvMondays
The Mummy Diaries says..
8 years ago

I think I will be exactly the same when i finally have baby number 2 #MarvMondays
Petite Words says..
8 years ago

Beautifully honest (: #MarvMondays
Mum Muddling Through says..
8 years ago

Love this Kaye - second babies are definitely not the focal point of the universe in the way their older sibling was! BUT....they complete the family in a way that is so special, and for that, no apology is required...xx #marvmondays (PS Sorry Baby#2 that I lug around your older brother AND baby bag AND pushchair when once I wouldn't lift a carrier back of groceries while pregnant)
Rhyming with wine says..
8 years ago

Aw this is lovely and so very true. In fact my post for later this week is also about how different things are second time around. My youngest is practically feral compared to my first which I think is partly down to lack of time and partly down to not sweating the small stuff second time around. The thing is, he's never known any different (phew!) Plus it really is true, you love them every bit as much, even if their baby book has a few more blank spaces than the first. Thanks for hosting. #marvmondays xx
Baby Lists says..
8 years ago

Love this! So true. #MarvMondays X
Claire @ Claire Bella Loves says..
8 years ago

When I have another I can tell this will be me. Lovely post x #marvmondays
Lady Nym @ Tyger, Bear and Me says..
8 years ago

The first time round I knew exactly how many weeks and days pregnant I was, whether the baby had just grown finger nails, what size he was etc. The second time round if someone asked how far along I was they get, 'Ummm...about six months or so...?' But there are advantages to being the second, I think. I had much more idea of what I was doing and was less terrified. He's surrounded by more toys than he could ever realistically play with because Tyger has a million toys plus Bear has his own, and he got given chocolate and squash and biscuits much earlier than Tyger did! #MarvMondays
Jaylan @ Diapers at Dawn says..
8 years ago

Good luck with your pregnancy, all so exciting! X #MarvMondays
Cydney @ The Good Life by Me says..
8 years ago

Aww, i can't say i relate but i imagine if and when i fall pregnant again that this will be the situation i'm in too! Great post! - Cydney #marvmondays
Laura @ Dear Bear and Beany says..
8 years ago

Being pregnant second time round is so different isn't it? Especially in the 2nd trimester, there were days I forgot I was pregnant, until I collapsed on the sofa at the end of the day X
Laura @ Five Little Doves says..
8 years ago

Aww lovely post and made me laugh, it's so very different having a second to your first! And it's the same when they are born! Thanks for hosting! #MarvMondays
Ky @ Clementine Rocks says..
8 years ago

Aww I love this. Baby #2 will be loved and just as amazing as A. I always found it weird finding out what size baby is compared to. It always seems to be a weird fruit/vegetable.x #marvmondays
Twin Mummy Yummy says..
8 years ago

This is great how you see it from the other perspective. Although I'm sure baby number 2 is very much loved already, it's refreshing to see a post that explains it how it often really is, second time round. #MarvMondays
Mess and Merlot says..
8 years ago

Aww baby #2 will get the last laugh no doubt :) #MarvMondays
Nadine @ Caring Chaos says..
8 years ago

I love this - (and it looks so pretty on the screen) it must be a whirlwind the second baby, no time to excitedly read your app each day (I was slightly addicted to doing this and got withdrawals once the baby arrived! - there was no more help!) but baby#2 will forgive you lol #marvmondays
Fiona @ Coombe Mill says..
8 years ago

But baby number 2 has the advantage of a Mummy with experience and an older sibling to lead the way, so there are some big plusses too. #MarvMondays
My Petit Canard says..
8 years ago

Oh I can completely relate to so many of these! I've felt terrible for pretty much neglecting baby no.2, for letting them get accidently sat on and bashed about by the little lady from time to time and for my general laissez faire attitude to pregnancy the second time round. Oh the mummy guilt is in full rife these days! Emily x
Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks says..
8 years ago

Our Baby #2 is still referred to as "Baby Name" and he is nearly one. The head sitting doesn't stop, nor the guilt, but the love? Well that just doubles and you're right, first or second or third or fourth, whatever, your heart just expands :) #TwinklyTuesday xx
Charlene says..
8 years ago

Good, birthing plan! I think mine would be the same, perhaps to save time I'd just get a poster made saying it... #MarvMondays
The Butterfly Mother says..
8 years ago

Love this post! I'd imagine all second time parents feel exactly the same way. #marvmondays
wendy @ Naptime Natter says..
8 years ago

This is lovely but I am sure baby #2 doesn't mind any of these things. Hehe made me laugh you wondering is baby is a giant! From what I have heard, most people show early on baby number 2. Hope the rest of your pregnancy flies by and you get to say hello to baby #2 soon xx #TwinklyTuesday
Baby Isabella @ Dear Mummy says..
8 years ago

I'm sure you'll love baby two as much as the first and he/she won't come second in anything xx no need to apologise xx #TwinklyTuesday
Squirmy Popple says..
8 years ago

Love this! I hear everything is a lot more relaxed the second time around, but that doesn't mean the second child is any less loved. #TwinklyTuesday
Agent Spitback says..
8 years ago

Yep, I hear you. My Baby #2 didn't have anything new too! All hand me downs... and yes, we love our #2 just as much. Thanks for hosting #MarvMondays.
Mrs Tubbs @ Someplace Strange says..
8 years ago

Can't wait to meet baby no 2 on the blog :) Good luck.
Nadia @ Scandi Mummy says..
8 years ago

Haha, very sweet. I'm sure baby #2 will be very loved and never know the difference #justanotherlinky Nadia - ScandiMummy x
Mummy's to do list says..
8 years ago

It's so true that time flies past second time around. But I found the early days after the birth felt that little bit easier and more relaxed with baby number two. Enjoy! #MarvMondays
Beth @ Life-As-Mum says..
8 years ago

Oh bless you! This was such a lovely post read. I can totally relate. Thank you for linking up with #justanotherlinky
Amy @ Everything Mummy says..
8 years ago

Ahh such a cute post, wait till baby no.3 you won't have a clue what's going on;) Thanks for linking up to #sundaystars x
Helen Gandy says..
8 years ago

Ahhh baby #2, it's going to be fun on the outside, haha. Thanks for hosting #marvmondays
Mudpie Fridays says..
8 years ago

Yup this is me too, I am at 35 weeks the pregnancy journal has not really been completed and I have two photos of my pregnant belly. I am planning on catching up with the pregnancy journal once my mat leave kicks in in 2 weeks but theres not much I can do about the photos... Thanks for hosting #MarvMondays xx
Rachel says..
8 years ago

AW this a a cute post. my boy is 6 months now and I'm always saying "sorry son". The labour one made me laugh. good luck with everything. #marvmodays
Catie @ Diary of an Imperfect Mum says..
8 years ago

Yes I can totally relate to this. With the first one there is so much planning, preparation etc but with the second you just don't have the time.
chantelle hazelden says..
8 years ago

Ah, you have nothing to be sorry for, we all do things differently the second, third, forth times round but as you said at the end they are no less loved! #effitfriday
Right Royal Mother says..
8 years ago

"I'm sorry baby #2 for not reading six books a day to you or hand-making your clothes" (I really did with NG. WHAT WAS I THINKING?) Lovely post. #effitfriday

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Amanda Bailey says..

Fi @ Beauty Baby and Me says..

Mackenzie @ Reflections From Me says..

Sophie @ Sophie and Lily says..

Crummy Mummy says..

Something Crunchy Mummy says..

Helen @ Gumdrops and the Bear says..

Sarah Howe says..

lizzie @ First Tooth says..

Mrs H @ Mrs H's Favourite Things says..

Silly Mummy @ R is for Hoppit says..

Fran @ Back With A Bump says..

Kerry @ Blissful Domestication says..

naomi @ Abandon the House says..

Island Living 365 says..

Emma @ MS Calling says..

Jules @ Pondering Parenthood says..

Abi @ Something About Baby says..

Jemma says..

The Mummy Diaries says..

Petite Words says..

Mum Muddling Through says..

Rhyming with wine says..

Baby Lists says..

Claire @ Claire Bella Loves says..

Lady Nym @ Tyger, Bear and Me says..

Jaylan @ Diapers at Dawn says..

Cydney @ The Good Life by Me says..

Laura @ Dear Bear and Beany says..

Laura @ Five Little Doves says..

Ky @ Clementine Rocks says..

Twin Mummy Yummy says..

Mess and Merlot says..

Nadine @ Caring Chaos says..

Fiona @ Coombe Mill says..

My Petit Canard says..

Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks says..

Charlene says..

The Butterfly Mother says..

wendy @ Naptime Natter says..

Baby Isabella @ Dear Mummy says..

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